From the day Sprogzilla was born, he hated being on his back. For the first three weeks I’m not sure how we actually got him to sleep, though I have vague memories of him being rocked in the Moses basket, taken out in the car or pram at all hours and spending (broken) nights lying on daddy’s chest. The latter was as close to co-sleeping as we got back then, but Sprogdaddy was too scared of rolling over to go to sleep. And I didn’t sleep because I was too busy watching Sprogdaddy in case he fell asleep and rolled over. What a mess lol.
When Sprogzilla was around 3 weeks old, we bought a Cocoonababy nest which he finally seemed happy to sleep in. Within a couple of weeks, he was sleeping 5+ hours at the beginning of every night and only waking for 2 feeds thereafter. He stayed in this until he was 13 weeks old, then we decided to migrate him to his crib (and ultimately, cot) before he got too big for the nest.
Unfortunately, he then developed an ear infection and stopped sleeping so well. At the peak of his illness, when his poor little ear was clearly hurting badly, I brought him into bed with us for a couple of hours at night. He still didn’t sleep well and neither did I, so we stopped co-sleeping after a few days.
Things then seemed to get back to normal until the dreaded 4 month growth spurt arrived. Since around 19 weeks old he rarely goes longer than 3 hours at the beginning of the night, but sometimes it’s as little as 90 minutes – something had to be done for the sake of our sanity. I am not an advocate of sleep training, hearing my little man crying pulls at my heartstrings and goes against every motherly instinct in my body.
So about 2 weeks ago I decided to bring him into bed at around 6am, the time when he often indicates he’s ready to get up for the day but is clearly still knackered. Initially we had him in the middle of the bed, but Sprogdaddy was still nervous about rolling onto him as he does move around a lot at night and likes to take up a good portion of the bed. It would be better if Sprogzilla slept at the side, with me in the middle.
Obviously there is the issue that he might fall out of the bed, but luckily our crib is a co-sleeper that sidecars onto the bedside. We never had any luck putting him to sleep in it early on, but it looks like it may have been a worthwhile purchase after all.
When we first started co-sleeping, I was worried that my own sleep would suffer as it did before. For the first few days, I barely dozed beside him, wanting to make sure that I didn’t squash him or inadvertently pull the duvet over his head. Gradually I started nodding off for longer periods and more deeply and I now sleep for almost as long as he does. I was pleased to find that I don’t shift position when he is lying next to me and I don’t adjust the covers either. Sprogdaddy sleeps soundly having plenty of room behind me, when its particularly nippy he’ll snuggle up and keep me warm so I don’t need the duvet up high.
Earlier in the night, when Sprogzilla is placed back in the cot, he’ll often fuss and work himself up until I nurse him again – this can go on for up to 2 hours. When co-sleeping however, he sleeps very well, having a couple of feeds and settling back down instantly.
I’ve now found that I really enjoy these few hours early in the morning (he now comes into bed as early as 4am). The last few nights in particular have been amazing – as soon as he’s placed down next to me, he rolls onto his side to face me, gives me a pleased-as-punch smile and reaches out for my boobies lol.
After that, I’m in a fantastic mood before the day has even begun!