I knew I was going to encounter this someday and now is that time. I’ve noticed that many kids toys come in either blue or pink, but it hasn’t bothered me too much as enough variety is offered for me to choose. Though I’m not fond of the whole “boys must have blue, girls must have pink” attitude, I’ve no problem giving Sprogzilla the former and I don’t mind the latter in moderation.
As you know from my recent posts, we’ve bought Sprogzilla a lovely wooden kitchen for Christmas and I’ve accessorised it with various pots/pans/food etc. The kitchen itself has plenty of bold, neutral colours and most of the other stuff is plain wood with blue and/or red accents. I’m very happy with what we’ve got so far.
But I have had one heck of a difficult time trying to find a particular accessory – a simple wooden tea/coffee set. There are a few nice ones made by Santoys/Bigjigs etc, but they all come with a kettle which I don’t need and I’d prefer more realistic mugs. Not to worry, I was sure ELC would do something that fits the bill and sure enough they do – in a lovely pastel pink! They actually do a whole range of nice wooden accessories, all in this same delightful shade. There’s not a trace of blue or even anything vaguely neutral in sight.
To be fair, it is very nice and if I had a little girl I would snap it up like a shot. But as much as I don’t want to care about the colours in Sprogzilla’s toybox, I really can’t bring myself to have this level of pink overload.
To make it all the more frustrating, ELC have done something considerably more suitable in the past. They once sold a multi-coloured pastel tea set with no kettle – instead it had three canisters, for sugar, tea and biscuits. It came with a couple of regular mugs and even some fake cookies, sugar and teabags to finish the look.
The photo below was taken from an eBay auction that ended this week. I was going to bid on it, but clearly I’m not the only one after a decent gender-neutral tea set because it sold for twice the price it was new. I simply couldn’t justify spending that much on a second-hand item, but the seller must be pleased as punch.
What really irks me about this whole thing though is the obvious sexist marketing at work. Are little boys not allowed to play kitchen? Sprogzilla is 17 months old for goodness sake, he isn’t even aware of the gender difference. And I know that these particular items are meant for kids aged 3+, but I still don’t agree that anyone should be enforcing gender stereotypes like this. Ever. I can’t believe in this day and age that such blatant discrimination is still going on. It’s no wonder we grow into such biased adults when the conditioning starts this young.
Of course, girls have their own problems too. It’s not easy finding clothing that isn’t pink or lilac (the girls section in any given shop always sticks out like a sore thumb) and how often do you see a little girl playing with a toy dinosaur or toolkit? I remember having this discussion once with a friend who has two girls. She didn’t want to dress them up solely in pink. I think she’s given into it now, there’s just such a lack of variety and she can’t afford to be picky about what she buys.
Then there’s the sales aspect. I’d like to keep certain things for my next child, but if they are all blue and I have a girl, I’ll need to buy them all again. That’s not likely to happen as I’ve intentionally stayed neutral wherever possible, but this is something manufacturers and stores prey on. Why buy one when you can have two for twice the price?
Oh well, not much point getting my knickers in a twist about it. Hardly going to change things by having a whinge. But at least I’m making a small difference by going against the trend and buying my son a kitchen. Ha!
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Dec 02, 2011 @ 17:43:58
I totally agree. I have two girls and this is a constant battle – to me, there is no purpose whatsoever in gender dividing toys. So, yes, some can be pink, some can be blue. It that is the appropriate colour for the thing, not to signify which children are “allowed” to play with it.
I posted about a horrible book that came from my daughters school here:
http://camelshump.co.uk/2011/11/14/princess-poppy-and-the-patriarchy/
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Dec 02, 2011 @ 19:29:47
Thanks for commenting Alicia, I will take a look at your post when the boy has gone to bed.
I love having a variety of colours in Sprogzilla’s toys but it really does annoy me when certain things are coloured specifically for one gender. I would have bought that tea set had it contained other colours, but all that pink was just too much. There’s no doubt that it was designed for girls and girls alone.
Thankfully many parents are now questioning these stereotypes and are not being afraid to give their boys and girls “unconventional” toys.
It would be nice to see marketers get really radical and feature adverts showing boys playing with dolls and girls with fire trucks etc. Doubt this will happen in the foreseeable future though….
Dec 03, 2011 @ 10:08:23
I completely agree. my little girl loves dinosaurs. particularly georges one on peppa pig. but we keep having to buy her boys pjs, socks, and t shirts because they just dont do any clothes for girls that embrace supposedly boy loves like dino’s cars trucks etc. ggggrrrrrrrr
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Dec 03, 2011 @ 12:06:47
That’s lovely to hear your daughter is into dinosaurs!
You’re absolutely right about the clothing though.
It’s all pretty flowers and hearts for girls. It’s not like dinosaurs can’t be feminine either, they’re just never presented that way.
What a huge gap in the market there is for something like this….
Dec 03, 2011 @ 10:16:23
I totally agree! What an awful message our children are getting, just to profit some corporate giants. Here’s a post I did a while back http://sparklingbay.blogspot.com/2011/10/gender-delusions.html
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Dec 03, 2011 @ 15:36:14
Thanks for the link Rach, I’ll have a read in a moment.
Dec 03, 2011 @ 11:33:30
This is so true, and so sad. A boy I know at my children’s school is being horribly bullied because he enjoys craft and baking, and takes no interest in football.
It’s so sad that the traditionally “female” activities are not only still branded as female by toymakers, but also come with an automatic derogatory overtone. Girls who want to dress in trousers and play with tool-kits are generally accepted by their peers. Boys who want to grow their hair long and play with dolls…not so much. In fact, hardly at all.
Dec 03, 2011 @ 12:08:32
That was me when I was at school, I had long hair (and still do!). I used to skip P.E. to go to the art room. I did it so often that the sports teacher forgot I existed! Sadly ‘cooking’ was a girls only class in the eighties and I had to do carpentry instead (boys only)
I never had toy guns or an action man. (GI Joe) I preferred to paint or make things with modelling dough or play with my sister’s doll house (although my toy family were plastic zoo animals)
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Dec 03, 2011 @ 12:18:09
I’m glad to say at least this was improved upon at my school in the early to mid-nineties. We had mixed sex cooking (home economics) and design and technology classes.
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Dec 03, 2011 @ 12:14:40
So sorry to hear about the little lad being bullied, that kind of thing really shouldn’t be happening. What’s particularly sad is that it’s not really the other kids’ fault, they’ve just been conditioned to think that way.
I agree that it’s harder for boys to be allowed any role reversal. Boys are generally looked at as weak whereas girls can simply be seen as being independent. It’s a gross inequality that desperately needs to be sorted.